Still locked suprised

Last night we went to a play party. I knew that Keyholder was planning a scene for the party, which will be a later post. I was expecting to be let out and made/allowed to cum some how. She surprised me in a number of ways. One was I was left in the Jailbird the whole time and was not allowed to cum. 4 different people used strapons on me in the sling. So now I am not sure when I will be let out and allowed to cum or how.  One might be Tuesday night, since we have been planning some fun for then. It might be next saturday, too, when we have a play date setup. The other thing that plays in to this is she is close to that time of the month, most of time in the days before that she is not feeling well and her sex drive is lower. For the first time in some time my head is spinning somewhat with our chastity play and that is a really good thing.

I know of many other guys that do long term chastity. The longest for me has been about 2 weeks. We don't play like many others that I know of. We have a very active sex life so missing a day or two is something that does not happen that much. Not knowing when I would be allowed to cum again is something I have asked for but many times I have had some idea when I might cum again.  But not this time. I am both excited (in a number of ways) and a bit scared that I may be getting what I asked for. We have had a few talks about the whys of chasity for us. I told Keyholder that if it worked for her I would like to be wearing the cage most of the time. Part of the play in not how often I cum as much as i don't get to pick when it is, so we will see how it all plays out in the up coming days. It would be great to find the balance that works for both of us on a longer-term basis.
locked ( and very horny and excited)

Relocked maybe I could say double locked

We are trying a new round of locking this week with a few things different. First, we are using two locks. The regular lock we have been using on the Jailbird, but now have added a Lori's #19 Stainless Steel Padlock Prince Albert Piercing. It locks though the cage of the jailbird making pulling out impossible without removing the lock first.

It uses a specialty screw that is not able to remove without the 1 key that came with it.

I have been wearing it this way for a couple of days now, going well so far.

The second thing we are trying is for me to be more focused on starting activities in the bedroom.  It may be challenging for me as most the time I am not the one who initiates thing to start with. Not that I don't want to do things, just don't initiate them. I have been craving to be locked past 2 months so we are both looking for way so it can work well for both of us.

 double locked and happy 

From Keyholder:

The song by Cheap Trick "I want you to want me" just popped into my head after reading this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HBQ9dm7zaQU&feature=related

It kind of explains part of how I feel. Because, seriously, if he's locked up, shouldn't it be how I want it?

And, by the way, he did a fabulous job last night of practicing our new approach to chastity play. Relaxed and satisfied doesn't even begin to explain the place I went last night.

pa-5000 still working well and more

We are still using the pa-5000, it still works the best for us. We have tried to use our Lori's Tube and our Curve in the past few weeks but for every day use, it still works very well. We did do the chastity workshop in March and it seemed to go well. We had lots of different devices for the work shop I was able to borrow from a few different people.




This last week there has been lots of tease and denial, then last night strapped down to a table, with electric butt plug, lots of stroking. The plug was removed with a bit of panic as the plug had sucked all the way in my ass, but came out fine. Then her purple dick and harness came out for some fucking and stroking, until i lost my load all over the place. BIG FUN



Later at the same party someone was looking for a cock to suck on by a guy who was being fucked and stoked by two ladies. He had been locked up for a week or two. He was in a sling, the 2 gals worked the lower-half of him as I fucked his mouth till they finished him off.



One of the other nights we played at home, about a week ago, Key holder tied me down to the bed once agian for ass fucking and stroking. Part way though she starting using some blue icy hot gel as lube on my cock and balls. iIt gives a very nice burning that I like a lot. we have about 6 different kinds of hot gels and creams. Some are pure pain othes are nice burning feeling. If i am blindfolded i don't know it is coming till the burn starts, unless I smell it, and then never sure which one it is going to be. More BIG FUN.



Today I was able to buy a pair of Boot Suspension Cuffs from a friend at a good price we hope the test them out tonight. http://www.stockroom.com/Boot-Suspension-Cuffs-P1823.aspx



More later, the next month will be busy again as we are moving to a new bigger place that we both are looking forward to.



locked (just not right now)

new toys on the way and not blogged in sometime

We have some new toys coming in the mail next week, one is a Kali‘s Teeth Chastity Device for JT Stockroom the other is Ballz Gag from there too. I am not sure what one I am more excited about but should be fun. We are getting settled in after the move and have been busy with life but still having lots of fun in the bedroom. Last year we did the kinky 12 days of Xmas. I was locked up most of the time with fun stuff though the 12 days. We may be doing that again this year. I do have some plans for Christmas eve that I may be able to post some photos afterwords.

Locked

He's in!

It's official.  Our stuff is under one roof, co-mingling all together. It feels both strange and completely normal, all at one time. I will miss having a place to go where we could be completely out about our kink.  At his apartment, we could scream as loud as we wanted, leave the mess of toys and rope and lube scattered everywhere, and be completely transparent about the kinky part of our lives.  That's NOT the case at our current place.  However, the good parts seem to out weigh the not-so-good parts, so we're content with the decision. In the end, the hard parts were mostly about what to do with our stuff, and how to make sure we could still get in enough kinky playing, not anything about the relationship.  If the rest of my life were as easy as being with the Locked One, it'd be one big cake walk for me.

This whole mess of mixing kinky and vanilla parts of life is sticky. Discovering kink has pushed me to question how I want to spend my free time, and what holds the most meaning to me, and what relationships are most meaningful.  It's not an easy process. I don't like the separate lives that I lead, and wish I could figure out a way to integrate them more. Sometimes figuring this stuff out is frustrating and stressful, but more often clarifying and energizing. At the end of the day, the internal conflict is worth it, because I'd rather have the experience than not.

A fun thing about chastity play is that it can be done in both kinky and vanilla worlds, which can't be said about a lot of types of play. Of course there's the whole appeal of doing something naughty while in public, and the anxiety of possibly getting caught, etc.  But it also wraps up all the power exchange, intimacy, and arousal stuff that happens during play, and drags it out all day (week? month?) long. The complexity of chastity play keeps me thinking and plotting between lock-ups, and makes me really horny during.  It's been way too long since I've held the key. I may need to do something about that tonight.
-Keyholder

move under way

I am moving in with Keyholder this weekend. I have lived alone for about 9 years now. There is some sadness about moving out of the building I have been living in past 5 years. Many around here call the place Kink Central only people in the local bdsm community live here in the building it is lots of fun here, but is time to move on to something new. Parts of the move there will be big changes others not so much. I am looking forward to not having to look around in the morning to see what bed we are in. After we get unpacked I am sure we will be back to some cock locking soon.
In March i will be doing a workshop on Chasity at SINSations In Leather in Chicago.
not locked and loading at the moment

Life happens

We had some really hot plans brewing this morning via text messages--lots of licking and sitting on his face, potentially the bouncy chair was coming out to play.  I was going to get him hard and purple again, and I was going to get off in a really big way...and then I got a call that I needed to watch my daughter because my ex had an emergency come up.  Which I'm more than happy to do, and of course want to spend as much time as possible with her, but that means plans will have to change.  And they did.  And that's okay.  It was kinda a long day at work anyway.  Now Locked is asleep on the couch, and he's sort of snoring lightly on and off, and his feet are twitching a little, which means he's way gone to sleepville.  This is one of those days where I get a little torn between sticking with the chastity play and just dropping it for a day or two. I want to continue with the torment, but I also just want to get naked and have some really good sex and cum really hard together.  Now that he's asleep, I don't have to decide, but if he was awake, I would have had to make that decision.  And the last thing I wanted to do today was make another decision.  Being in charge is sort of tiring some days.  Luckily, the Locked one understands this and doesn't give a shit what happens, as long as he eventually ends up back in the cage at some point.  And that, I can guarantee, will happen.

-Keyholder